Perfectionism: The Soul Eater

Guest Author Niké Basurto, MSW, CAE

Okay, so the title might be just a bit dramatic. But bear with me. This is my last semester in the MATD program here at Roosevelt. I can’t even list everything I’ve learned about instructional design, learning and most of all myself. One of my biggest lessons gained during this program was about the not so pretty side of perfectionism.

Myopia

My first year in the program, I was so focused on getting all of the points on my assignments and participation, that I didn’t allow myself to be fully immersed in the learning experience. I was so caught up in perfectly matching the rubric, that I was spot on when it came to applying the theories and methodologies, but I wasn’t fully taking advantage of the opportunity to connect with the art of instructional design.

There is a flow and beauty to a well-designed learning experience. Where learners are engaged, active, practicing and able to use what they learned when they click out of the software or walk out of a room. Basically, they get it, they liked it and they use it, all due to a clear and thoughtful design that has an energy and groove of its own.

Why it Matters

I was missing out on balancing the science and the art of instructional design. It wasn’t until my second year in the program that I was able to shift my focus from maintaining my 4.0 GPA to allowing myself to free fall, and take chances with my projects and thoughts that I shared. I expressed a deeper honesty in my posts about shifts in thinking, the exhilaration of success and the fear of failure. It was a real change for me to focus on the pursuit of excellence instead of scrambling for perfection.

I decided to do a bit of research on the perfection vs. excellence approach to life and work. This image really exemplified why this shift is so impactful (Courtesy of Sarah Burke http://www.getspokal.com/is-being-a-perfectionist-holding-you-back-from-achieving-greatness/):

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Now did I experience everything listed under perfection? Absolutely not, but I could see the possibility of it happening. And I wanted to be proactive. I keep a copy of the “Healthy Striving” side of this image on the wall of my office as a reminder.

Moving Forward

You might be wondering, “how do I get from the first column to the second column?” For me it was an “ah ha” moment and my thinking just started shifting. I started to see the opportunity to approach and think of everything differently. According to the University of Texas Counseling and Mental Heath Clinic, there are some other ways to get the process going:

  1. Make a list of the advantages and disadvantages of trying to be perfect.
  2. Increase your awareness of the self-critical nature of your all-or-nothing thoughts, and how they extend to other people in your life.
  3. Be realistic about what you can do.
  4. Set strict time limits on each of your projects. When the time is up, move on to another activity.
  5. Learn how to deal with criticism.

Bigger Than You

The ability to identify perfectionism is useful beyond individual development. The capacity to see it in clients, colleagues and learners can lead to strategies to approach interactions and situations clouded by perfectionism. These changes could lead to increased productivity and improved interactions.

So Worth It

The result of my shift in thinking was a sense of calm and ability to focus with clarity and connect more deeply, professionally and personally. And yep, I still maintained my 4.0 GPA.  I’m continuing the process of striving for excellence vs. perfection. I see it as a journey and not a destination.

No one is perfect. And that’s wonderful. Some of the world’s biggest “mistakes” and “failures” have led to innovation and positive change. Embrace excellence, you won’t regret it!

Thanks for reading my post.

Let’s continue the conversation:

What’s your biggest takeaway from this post?

In what ways could you apply what you read?

References

https://cmhc.utexas.edu/perfectionism.html

https://www.excelatlife.com/articles/excellence.htm

Resources

http://www.getspokal.com/is-being-a-perfectionist-holding-you-back-from-achieving-greatness/

http://theviewinside.me/perfectionism-vs-excellence/

About the Author

Niké is an instructional designer and trainer with a passion for organizational development, dancing, laughing, fabulous live music and a great meal. She will complete the MATD program at Roosevelt University in a few weeks and is going to miss working as a Graduate Assistant for the Training and Development Department.  Due to her naturally social nature, she is looking to connect with as many ID and OD professionals as possible. Connect with her via LinkedIn to stay in touch.

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23 comments

  • Thanks for sharing this invaluable perspective, Nike! It’s a great reminder that striving for perfection will leave a whole lot of things to celebrate behind. To apply this, it will be important to recognize smaller steps toward long-term progress. Rather than trying to make everything perfect, I’ll do my best to take your good advice and enjoy the journey.

    Congratulations on your academic and personal success! Your wise words will be put to good use as I work towards my degrees as well. Thanks very much and best of luck!

  • Great Post, Iam too concerned about my GPA, but I have learned that being too concerned mistakes are made and information is missed.

  • Niké! How wonderful to read your post and yes, the beast that is perfectionism can be a challenge and certainly intrude on our learning! I appreciated your insights into your process through the program. I, too, found myself very focused on structure and rubrics at first as I was returning to school after quite a long time I wanted to “do it right!” Once I shifted to diving into the learning my experience improved profoundly and my learning was much richer! The excellence vs perfectionism dichotomy is a very worthy one for my thinking and attention, thanks for putting it out there. A quote I appreciate related to this: “Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.” Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are.

    • Maureen! So glad to hear from you! I love that quote. I’m completing a module as a part of my onboarding process in authenticity and self awareness. Putting the shield down is a big part of that training. I miss you so much. Graduated in May 👩🏽‍🎓!

  • This post I must assure you that I can realty to this in so many ways and aspect of how I was once focusing on the points and grades, instead of the experience that can help lead you into more success. Being able to use the experience in anything that you learn or go through can be the joy in helping who you are and develop better into what you can accomplish in life. However I think for me its just a thought to always keep in mind to always try to divided the two when thinking of experience or points.

  • Thanks for the post and perspective. I really like how you say strive for excellence rather than perfection. I would disagree that perfectionism is always beyond reach and logic. I do think that when people focus on perfectionism that often times the significance or purpose of the act itself is lost.

    • Thanks so much for your thoughtful reply Selma. I hope you can use the parts of the post that worked for you. I would be interested in hearing more about your views on perfectionism being attainable. For me perfection means nothing goes wrong. Do you think humans can attain this level of performance? Thanks! I hope to hear from you.

  • Thank you for your enlightening insight, Niké! It is definitely easy to lose sight of the bigger picture when we are so focused on the tasks we have at hand. With perfectionism can produce favorable results, it can also take away from other areas. Having exposure to topics unrelated to our major or our main focus can help to give a fresh perspective and exercise other areas of our thinking. Through my experiences, I’ve learned to not be so harsh in criticizing myself and to realize that every situation presents a lesson and opportunity to learn and grow!

    • Thanks for the great response. Looking at situations and outcomes as an opportunity to grow is a great way to approach corrections or improvements for outcomes. Take care and good luck!

  • Thanks for the post Nike, I came to a realization half way through my time at RU that I needed to go “easy” on myself and not be a perfectionist when it came to my work. I could spend hours and hours making sure the sentence had the best words possible but after a while had to be ok with the effort that I put in. It made for a more healthier lifestyle.

    • I’m so with you Michael! Time waits for no one. Especially in our industry. It was so great learning with you during my time in the program. Enjoy the rest of your time learning and growing.

  • This posts definitely hits some familiar buttons that I think many individuals face at some point or another. It’s hard not to strive for the absolute best and a “perfect” situation in all instances, especially when it comes to something like a formal education. I apprecaite how the post draws out the importance of being in the learning and experiencing it in a way that becomes more tangible than just a memory game. It how one’s continues to enjoy the process of learning and to see it as a chore or a race to the grade. The hope is that what we learn is actually applied in a meaningful way, and by fully being present we reach greater success.

  • Fantastic post, Nike – and I wholeheartedly relate! In reading your piece I realized that, while I continually remind my students that the process is more important than the product I don’t know that I always remember that in my own work. And your point about how embracing the process perspective provides not only a sense of calm, but also leads to more honest and genuine personal/professional relationships is spot on! I think I’m going to print the right side of this chart for my desk as well!

  • Great post! This really puts it into perspective on how some people think. I’ve never been a perfectionist and it really puts it into perspective. I’ve always been a bare-minimum student, and reading this makes me want to work better towards a healthy strive.

  • I actually love this post and sent the table to my friend. I realize that sometimes we tend to think about the end goal instead of focusing on the process, when the process also greatly contributes to what we become. Thanks so much for this much needed post!

  • Great post Nike! I’ve always been harshly critical of myself as well. Fear of judgment and need for control would hold me back and keep me from completing projects (and sometimes still does). Thankfully I’ve learned that “Done is ALWAYS better than PERFECT.”

    • Thanks for reading and responding Monique. Absolutely! Also, the pace at which outcomes and completion are expected don’t allow for a perfectionist perspective. There simply isn’t enough time to consistently mull over everything repeatedly.

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